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Welcome to My Rollercoaster Ride of Love Loss and Handmade Dreams in the Carolinas

  • Writer: Rene F
    Rene F
  • Jul 23
  • 5 min read

Updated: 6 days ago

Welcome, dear readers, to the gripping narratives of a Carolina girl's extraordinary journey through life. Join me as I share my experiences with everything from an abusive relationship and the loss of many close to me to establishing a nonprofit dedicated to prison reform and veteran care. I'll also open up about becoming a prison wife and the challenges that arise, all while uncovering the artistry behind making handmade garden decor such as unique houses.


The Beginning: Roots and Reckonings


My story unfolds in the beautiful landscapes of North Carolina, a region filled with charm and rich history. Growing up here nurtured my spirit and taught me resilience. But life had its share of challenges.


In my early 20s, I experienced an abusive relationship that taught me about the complexities of love and the courage needed to escape. There were moments when giving up seemed easier, but a spark within me pushed me to keep fighting. Each bruise and scar told a story, marking my path toward healing and self-discovery.


I found solace in the view from my front porch—a lush sanctuary that reminded me of unconditional love amidst my struggles. Those moments provided comfort and strength, something so crucial during my healing journey.


Wide angle view of a quaint garden filled with handmade decor
The View from my front porch

The Losses: Heartbreaks and Lessons


Heartbreak didn't cease after I escaped the cycle of abuse. I faced loss in various ways—the passing of family members, friendships that faded, and family ties that loosened over time. In fact, nearly 70% of people experience significant loss in their lives, shaping their perspectives and priorities.


Each personal loss taught me the importance of cherishing those still with us while honoring the memories of those gone. This emotional journey through grief ignited my passion for advocating for others who have suffered similar pain. I wanted to highlight the importance of community support during these trying times.


Finding Purpose: A Nonprofit to Make a Difference


From my experiences with loss, I discovered a powerful calling: establishing a nonprofit focused on prison reform and veteran care. This was more than an initiative; it was a mission driven by empathy and the desire to create positive change.


The journey to set up this nonprofit was both liberating and daunting. I spent countless hours researching, networking, and refining every detail to ensure its success. For example, studies show that effective prison reform can significantly reduce recidivism rates, offering a second chance to thousands. With each step, I felt empowered to transform my past experiences into a source of strength for those around me.


Through my nonprofit, I aimed to amplify the voices often overlooked in society and shed light on the struggles faced by inmates and veterans. I wanted to create a safe space for storytelling—a platform where others could share their journeys and find hope in their own.


Becoming a Prison Wife: Challenges and Realities


As I was establishing my nonprofit, my life took another turn; I fell in love with someone incarcerated. This transformation into a prison wife came with its challenges. Navigating visitation schedules and the feelings of isolation was often exhausting.


For instance, studies reveal that approximately 2.7 million children in the U.S. have an incarcerated parent, lonely roads that many traverse. I often felt like I was balancing on a tightrope—supporting my partner while managing my responsibilities.


Yet this relationship taught me invaluable lessons about loyalty and patience. Small victories became my lifeline; receiving a heartfelt letter or hearing him on the phone sparked joy amid the chaos. Those instances reminded me of the beauty of love that persists despite physical distance.


The Creative Outlet: Handmade Garden Decor


Throughout this period of love and loss, I discovered unexpected joy in creating handmade garden decor. This newfound hobby became a therapeutic outlet and a way to turn my emotions into something beautiful.


I started crafting unique garden houses, each piece a tribute to my journey and dreams. My once-barren patches turned into vibrant spaces, with colorful decorations that told stories of resilience and hope.


This creative endeavor allowed me to connect with my inner artist, a side that had often been hidden. Shaping and painting each piece brought me peace, a brief respite from the burdens of life.

Close-up of a handcrafted garden house with vibrant colors
A handcrafted garden house adds charm to the outdoor space.

Sharing My Journey: Art and Advocacy


Now, I want to share my art and advocacy with you. I hope my journey—filled with heartache, resilience, love, and creativity—inspires you to pursue your own passions while supporting meaningful causes. I've begun teaching workshops on handmade decor, where proceeds bolster my nonprofit efforts. This connection between artistry and advocacy creates a ripple effect of positive change.


During workshops, community members gather to share stories and form friendships. Participants leave not just with unique pieces for their gardens but also with a sense of purpose that ties them to something bigger than themselves.


Hope and Healing: The Lessons We've Learned


While navigating this rollercoaster of life, I’ve learned invaluable lessons worth sharing:


  1. Embrace Your Journey: Life rarely follows a straight path. Embrace all its twists and turns.


  2. Seek Connection: In hardship, reaching out can uncover support in the most unexpected places.


  3. Channel Your Emotions into Creativity: Find a way to express your feelings, whether it's through art or another form. This expression can be incredibly healing.


  4. Advocate for Others: Your experiences can inspire strength in others going through similar situations.


  5. Celebrate the Small Victories: Life consists of tiny moments—cherish them.


The Road Ahead: A Journey of Love and Advocacy


As I look toward the future, I feel hopeful and determined. My journey has transformed me, and I continuously seek ways to blend my passion for art with my advocacy work.


The road ahead will present challenges, but I know I am not alone. I carry the weight of my past alongside the strength of my present. Each handmade garden decor I create symbolizes seeds of hope—both in my yard and in the hearts of those who share this journey with me.


The Story Continues


Thank you for joining me on this rollercoaster ride of love, loss, and handmade dreams. This journey continues to unfold, and I invite you to accompany me on these future adventures.


Remember, amidst life's chaos, there’s always a chance to grow, to create, and to love fiercely. Embrace your stories, share them, and let them inspire change. Together, we can use our experiences to nurture hope and healing within ourselves and our communities.



I hope this post resonates with you. If you have a story to share or want to join me in this journey of creativity and advocacy, let’s connect! Your voice matters, and together we can make a difference.




Eye-level view of a cozy workshop setup with creative supplies
A full workshop filled with supplies invites creativity and connection.

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